A Woman Is The Girl Who Accepts Herself

I only started recognizing myself as a woman in my late 20s. I was very much OK with being just a girl.

I Am Woman 

In my early 20s, I felt the need to be perfect. Always. I wanted to be pretty enough for attention, but not too pretty because pretty girls were called bad names. I wanted to be free enough to have fun with everyone, but not too free to well. . .be one of those bad names. I wanted to be everything to everyone all the time

It was draining.

It took me almost half of a decade to know that I am a pretty woman whether married or not.

Top 3 Influential Women I'm Wishing A Happy International Women's Day In 2020

All over the world, March 8 is celebrated as International Women's Day. I thought to celebrate the women who have been greatly influential in my life instead of doing the regular Sunday-Style post today.

3 Women I Celebrate In My Life Today

There are many influential women in the world from all walks of life—politics, business, sports, and the arts to name just a few. Do you know what makes them influential? It's the RESPECT they give and receive. Respect had to be earned or given. You just can't take it.

In my opinion, being influential is more about being respected.

According to Webster Dictionary, to be 'influential' means to possess influence.

in·​flu·​ence | \ ˈin-ˌflü-ən(t)s\
1: the power or capacity of causing an effect in indirect or intangible ways:

2a: the act or power of producing an effect without apparent exertion of force or direct exercise of command:

How To Become A Wife Before You Get Married

I think it's time to include 'marriage' on the side bar of this blog, because I'd probably be posting more about marriage than relationship from today. I've been learning and evolving greatly.

Become A Wife Before Marriage

I was smiling. My eyes were producing tears. I was cutting onions in the kitchen. It was one of those special evenings I get to have the kitchen all to myself without my mum popping her nose and acting as a monitoring spirit. Lol. She has this nasty habit of supervising me and making "suggestions" about even the size of pot I should use. Lol. I don't blame her at all. It is her kitchen and it is her husband's house.

So I was cooking yam with tomato sauce for the family. For some weird reason, perhaps not so weird, I was happy and proud doing it.

Join The Ankara And Sneakers Rockers

Happy Style-Sunday! I'm not a big fan of fashion trends. If, however, I discover how they sync with my style ingredients, I wouldn't mind giving them a go. How about you?

Ankara And Sneakers

Sneakers are one of the most versatile things to incorporate in your wardrobe. Is there anything you can't wear with them!? You can wear sneakers on a little skirt, a shirt dress, a maxi skirt with slits, and you can even wear sneakers on a wedding gown!

I love sneakers. And I love Ankara fabrics. Being able to put these together in one outfit feels almost like a dream come true. I am excited about this trend.

What I Wore To Church: Cold Things

Happy Sunday! Enjoying the weekend? Here is an outfit that makes no sense, really. But I can't quite take my eyes off it. Could I actually . . . maybe . . . like it?

Cold-Inspired

I love clothes. I think clothes are an amazing way to define our personalities and express ourselves. Hey, that's one of the reasons why I blog about What-I-Wore!

Being generally inspired by colours, prints and everything African when it comes to fashion, I can say that my sense of fashion is a mix and match, a falling rainbow, a cacophony of everything I like. And when it comes to style, I am not afraid to push myself.

STYLE: The Vibes Of Black With Red

There is power in colours. The emotions tied into the colours of clothes we wear are what give the colours their power and meaning. The important question is now: am I giving off the right 'vibe?' Am I wearing the right colours that suit me and my personality?

Black With Red Vibes

I find the field of Colour Science quite fascinating, especially since it's not a huge one (researching my post on 'how colours affect your mood' was way playful than I'd thought it would be). After connecting with my clothes to find out how they affect my mood, I knew I had a very exciting ingredient to add to my Style Statement.

STYLE: This Combination Is Something Else!

If you’ve ever experienced the frustration of not being able to wear an amazing skirt because none of your tops go with it, you'll understand my excitement about this outfit.

The Perfect Combination

When it comes to fashion, every one deserves to tell their own unique story with the clothes they wear. Wearing the same outfit as every other person just doesn’t cut it for those who have a story to tell—who have discovered their style statement. 

I have a story to tell. In fact, three stories!

How To Rock A Bodycon Dress Modestly

Many people may not consider the bodycon dress as modest, but it is undeniably a bold statement of self-esteem and body confidence. It all depends on how you wear it according to your body shape and size.

Rocking Bodycon Dresses Modestly

I guess it's wise to not assume everyone knows what a bodycon dress is. Hello brothers! 😉

Here is a simple description:

A bodycon dress is a one-piece figure hugging garment that clings tightly to the body.

The bodycon dress can be a girl's best friend or worst nightmare.

One may be tempted to think this dress is a quick and simple solution to achieving the perfect look, but it can be tricky if you don’t have a body of a supermodel (and really, how many of us do?).

Dear Diary, I Am So Hungry For Love

The 30-Day Man Fast is a period where a woman stays away from men to focus on Jesus.

Sharing bits from my private diary . . .

Day 9: Only Him

I had a great encounter with God through His word. It was like when Jesus sat down next to the Samaritan woman by the well.

DIARY: Does This Make Any Sense?

A number of people requested that I keep them updated on my 30-Day Man Fast. I shrugged at it because I consider it to be a personal journey between me and God. Then again, I thought to share moments that weren't creepily sacred.

This was what Day1 of my 30-Day Man Fast looked like . . . Clueless but cognizant.

30-Day Man Fast
Day 1: God Loves Me

I grabbed my diary, my Bible and a pen as though I was expecting God to suddenly start dictating for me to write.

What I Wore: Ankara Peplum Skirt (Collection)

Ankara is an ever versatile fabric that isn't going anywhere soon. Why wouldn't you rock it in every style? That's why I'm here to inspire you. *winks*

Skirt + Cape

Ankara is not new to us. It's one of our favourite Sunday style features.

Awww! This Is Why Alicia Keys Has Stopped Wearing Makeup

Hi. Hi. I ran into this article on The Washington Post and loved it. You know I'm not such a fan of makeup. Right?  I was awed to find WHY this celebrity would suddenly decide to STOP wearing makeup.

Alicia Keys No Longer Wears Makeup 

Alicia Keys, an American singer, pianist, songwriter, record producer, and actress, says she no longer wears makeup, a decision she described publicly:

RELATIONSHIP: Rock Your "Singlehood" Before You Get Married

In case you're wondering why I should be talking about being single on a love-relationship Wednesday, may I let you know that being single is a relationship too. Yelx. Listen. 

Rock Your Singlehood

Please, don’t start looking at me as a hypocrite that is going back and forth between being in a relationship with someone and being single altogether. It's not because Jerry left. Please . . .

Every Woman (Including Men) Should Read This Awesome Piece

This is one of the best articles I've read about being a woman. Prechy, my friend, sent it to me via Whatsapp. I thought to share it with you. It's too much for only me. (I edited it a little tho). Enjoy.

When God Created Woman

source: gphotos

When God created woman, He was working late on the 6th day. 

An angel came by and asked,

"Why are you spending so much time on this particular one?"

Relaxed Hair Vs Natural Hair; Who Am I?

No. I've not come to start an argument on this controversial topic about which is better (relaxed or natural?). We're all human, we have different tastes and different personalities. I am here for something much better . . . to help you find "you".

Journey of Self-Discovery

Lemme start by saying that I love relaxed and natural hair. I think all hair is beautiful. I think there is no such thing as good hair or bad hair because everybody is unique and everybody has got a personal style.

Yeah, I have worn both shoes. I have lived both worlds. I have discovered what it feels to have one and not have the other. Through it all, I am not my hair. I am me!

Now the question is, Who am I?

Personal Confessions of a Christian Single Lady

No story. This one is straight to the point. 

Personal Confessions of a Christian Single Lady

1. I will not let lovesickness push me into the arms of a man who cannot love,  appreciate and respect me. 

STYLE: A #WeekForScarves for #TeamNaturalHair

You've read my "About Me" page and have come to understand that I love everything lovely and beautiful. Abi? Fashion is a beautiful thing. And me I like am for fashion. Walahi!

So I didn't know what to do with my African natural, thick and kinky hair. I just couldn't find any hairstyle to fit my mood. I was wondering, searching and thinking about it all through the weekend.

Bingo! I ended up wrapping my hair in scarves all through the week. Thank God I don't work in a bank or in any strictly "you-must-wear-corporate" organisation. Free-styling is allowed here. *grins*

This was how the week looked like :)

POEM: The Musings of a Lonely Lady

Where is my love?
Have you seen him?
I'm here, waiting.
Waiting to be found
I miss him
I need him

My love!