21 Days of Praise: Day 4 - His Restorative Healing

Welcome to Day 4 of our #21DaysofPraise series. Today, I am filled with gratitude as I reflect on God’s healing power.

Praise for Healing

Verse of the Day: Jeremiah 30:17

"But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds,’ declares the Lord." (NIV)

"Yes, I will restore you to health. I will heal your wounds. I, Yahweh, declare it!" (TPT)

Whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual healing, God has shown His mercy and love through His restorative touch. He is the Great Physician, always ready to heal our wounds and renew our strength. 

There were plenty moments in my life when I felt broken (the stories are all on this blog) and in need of healing. During those times, God's presence brought me comfort and recovery. Like a doctor, He does a Heart Check on me. His healing power is not just limited to physical ailments but extends to our hearts and minds, bringing wholeness and peace.

I have experienced God’s restorative healing firsthand. Oh, my heart has been through so many surgeries and back. Glory to God! I have a special name I call God in those seasons; My Heart Keeper. God is always ready and willing to mend my heart each time the people I love hurt me. I just cry to Him, “Dear Heart Keeper…”

Exposing The Love Bombing Strategy in Manipulative Relationships

Someone I really admire recently got married to a man who is publicly considered to be a narcissist, and I started to feel concerned. I got a little invested in the news and started to do some research. Then, I found the term “love bombing”. It struck a chord in me. I have once been there. . .

Love Bombing

Have you ever found yourself swept off your feet by someone who showers you with overwhelming attention and affection right at the start of a relationship? It can feel exhilarating, like a dream come true. But what if this intense adoration isn't as genuine as it seems? This tactic, known as love bombing, is a manipulative strategy where someone “bombs” you with extreme displays of attention and affection to control you.

The Temptation and Danger of Love Bombing

Love bombing can be incredibly flattering at first. Imagine being bombarded with texts, calls, gifts, and praise—it's like a dream. It feels great. However, this flood of affection can mask darker intentions.

If someone is love-bombing you, it doesn’t necessarily mean they are a bad person, or that they should be considered an enemy. In fact, they’re likely to be just dealing with trauma themselves.

Love bombers often use this tactic to gain control, particularly in abusive relationships. The abuser might shower you with love after a fight to manipulate you into staying. This cycle of abuse, apology, and grand gestures can be confusing and damaging. 

Recognizing the Signs

So, how do you know if you're being love bombed? Here are some signs:

This Is How You Break Free From A Narcissistic Relationship

Break up hurts. Rejection on any level is torturing, no matter how you slice it. But getting over a relationship with a Narcissist is a much different kettle of fish.

Breaking Up With A Narcissist 

I have come across the term "narcissism" a couple of times but I have never had any cause to use it. It didn't sound interesting to me. The word only started to make much sense at that point of being brutally honest with myself about a past relationship. For a long time, I lived in the lies that I told myself and it delayed my healing process.

It's been said that "your greatest struggle is your greatest blessing". And relationships are my greatest struggles. 

I've had my share of toxic relationships, or at least what I thought was toxic. Is it fair to say you have too? My guess is that we’ve all endured the company of people who were not shooting for our highest good.

Finding True Love After A Terrible Heartbreak

First things first. If you want to fall in love after a hard and depressing breakup, you’re going to first have to come to terms with it. That means you need to fully accept the breakup, no matter how much you miss this person. 

Happy New Month Sweetheart! I just had to put that first paragraph out there. Hope you are doing great this lovely Sunday?

Finding Love Again

This is meant to be a style post but as I continued to write, I found myself gravitating towards helping a friend who recently broke up with her fiancé. It was a huge shock.

There is nothing I'd say to you right now that will make you magically forget your ex, but there are practical things you MUST do if you ever want to fall in love with another person again. Here’s a short list of things that you must do:

1. Stop stalking Your Ex
2. Avoid reminiscing on old times
3. Find a new hobby
4. Dedicate yourself to work
5. Spend more time with God
6. Trust that you are deserving of true love

Let's shed a little light on three points out of those six:

When The Heartbreaker Doesn't Deserve Your Apology

Happy New Week Sweethearts! I write this post with swollen eyes and dried tears. The tears have stopped flowing but the traces are visible. What I'm about to share with you today radiates from a heart flooding with peace.

Blessed Are The Peacemakers

Heartbreak blows you open. That's certainly not the most wonderful opening sentence, but tell me that's not wisdom. Don't leave me!

Oh. You didn't catch my drift? Sorry. Maybe that's why I drifted from the relationships I threw myself into, because the guys couldn't catch me. Wisdom. Don't leave me!

Oops. I'm not playing with you like they do in Italy. Give me another chance. Please. You can see I am not writing don't leave me in italics like I did in the previous paragraphs.

An Open Letter To The Guy Whose Heart I Broke

Is it OK to say 'Good Morning'? Cos I am writing this article at 11:00AM. So yeah, I will be hitting the big three-0 in a few days. And like I told you last week, I will be sharing lessons from my 20s just before my journey into 30s starts.

This is the eighth lesson. I hope it inspires you in some way. Happy reading!

Letter To My Ex

Dear Ex,

I know what it means to be heart broken.

It's like a knife piercing into your heart so slowly.

It's been years since I broke your heart and I still remember how much I felt bad for rejecting you.

I wanted to want you but I couldn't.
Trust me when I say that it was nothing you did. 'It's not you, it's me', so cliche, yet truer words have never been spoken.

I felt guilty every time you called. I felt like a fraud when we were hanging out together. I hated myself for leading you on.

I knew I wasn't ready for the relationship you were asking for. I had many mistakes to make and the experiences that didn't require a committed relationship. I'm sorry.

Heartbreaks Never Last Forever

Hello again! My name is Amaka and I will be 3 and 0 on June 26. I decided to share my lessons from being a 20-something just before my journey into 30s begins.

This post is the seventh of twenty. I hope it inspires you in some way. Happy reading!

Heartbreak Empowers You

My biggest struggle in my 20s wasn't having an extra year at school. No. My greatest weakness was boys, boys and boys!

I was a sucker for love.

I wanted to love and be truly loved.

But I wasn't lucky in love.

I was recovering from one heartbreak after another.

RELATIONSHIP: Should You Wish Your Ex A Happy Birthday?

It's Love-Wednesday! How are you doing today? Everyone gets one birthday a year, wouldn't it be a really nice opportunity to do a nice thing and foster a good relationship? Just asking.

Wishing Your Ex A Happy Birthday

I can understand the urge to say happy birthday to an ex, especially a serious one who you had experienced at least one birthday with. It's a moral quandary!

If you don't say happy birthday, won't they think you're being petty and are secretly wishing they have an unhappy birthday?

But then again, if you do say happy birthday, they might not respond, or worse, they might respond with a cold "Thanks."

The Bleeding Woman

Again I read about the woman with the issue of blood. This woman’s story pierces my heart in the way that it brings me to tears . . . to Jesus.

"If I can just touch the hem of his garment, I will be healed". That's what she told herself. Such a daring adventure.

The Bleeding Has To Stop

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If you've been reading my blog, you're aware about the breakup I had with an ex-friend who attends my church. I got in touch with him again to carry out an official assignment . . . Then, the hurt, the pain, the ache all came back.

"I thought I had moved on." I cried.

RELATIONSHIP: What Do You Do When Someone Lies To You?

I’d just discovered a friend lied to me. It was about something senseless, which only made it worse. As days go by, I wrestled through troubling thoughts. Why would he lie about THAT? Were we ever really friends?

It's Love-Wednesday! Let's talk.

When Your Friend Lied

I tend to totally trust people from the first minute I meet them, meaning that people can only lose my trust. This doesn't mean that anybody I get to know immediately becomes my friend; it simply means that I have no prejudice towards them about the possibility of being friends with them.

So, this article is going to cover both friends, bae's and acquaintances. What we do when we discover that people we trust lied to us?

How To Survive A Friendship Breakup

Maybe you walked away or naturally grew apart, maybe the friendship turned toxic, or maybe a fall-out was involved. No matter the circumstances, a friendship breakup can really take its toll. 

It is harrrrrrd.

6 ways To Survive A Breakup

The most stinging part about losing a friendship is that when it happens, it seems you've lost the person you once were.

Even if the breakup was a long time coming, how do we overcome the immense hurt and loneliness of losing that piece of ourselves?

Friendship Breakup: The Worst Heartbreak Ever

Hello! Yes, it's been a while I wrote about love and relationships. I might have unknowingly clicked a pause to that aspect of my life. It recently dawned on me that anything I try to hide from you hurts me even deeper. 

So I'm back to writing on relationships again after going through a roller coaster ride of emotions.

The Heartbreak That Comes From A Lost Friendship

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Heartbreak is commonly used after a break up with a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse, but it is not strictly limited to that. You can feel absolutely heartbroken over a friendship, and to be honest, it is the worst kind.

Note To Self: Get Out Of Your Head

Are you unnecessarily driving yourself crazy? Are your feelings almost getting the best of you?

Get Out Of Your Head

The mind is like a compass that helps direct your life.

You are in charge, and you do not have to think things that you don’t want to think about.

Stop Disturbing My Life

Hi sweeties! How are you today? The weather is so cool over here. There is a gentle breeze coming through the window in my little cozy room. Hmm .  .  . *inhales slowly* I am enjoying a breathe of fresh air.

Lemme tell you about it. :)

Do Not Disturb

I am a calm person. I hate drama.

A-ha! Remembering that I told I do have a dramatic personality yesterday, and then saying that I hate drama today sounds a bit awkward to me. Lol. There are two different things, you know that. Right?

RELATIONSHIP: Let The End Be The End

I apologize for posting behind schedule. I had network connection issues, but we're back on. It's Love-Wednesday!

I’ve had many friendships I thought would last my whole life, but life (or should I say God?) has been a surprise, as it often does. You too?

Stop Going Back

Where did my friend and I go wrong? We were supposed to be best friends for life. We always say we'd stick together!

RELATIONSHIP: What To Do When You Forget A Friend's Birthday

Since I hardly get by on Facebook, I seem to forget everyone's birthday these days. I don't even know who is married and not married anymore.

I don't just say "Sorry". Here is what I do now!

When You Forget Their Birthday 

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Debbie called and mentioned that she has given birth to a babygirl. And I screamed. "Are you serious?!" "Congratulations!"

I didn't even know she was married. Lord have mercy! I felt terrible.

RELATIONSHIP: When They Leave Without Saying Goodbye

We are so good with openings. But very terrible when it comes to closure. We say hi, and don't say goodbye. Why some relationships end without having an end is yet to be understood.

Without Saying Goodbye

When someone comes into our lives, we open our heart. A story starts being written.

RELATIONSHIP: Beware Of Those Who Come To Steal Your Sweet Heart

Hello sweets! It's Love-Wednesday. A day to talk about love and relationship issues. I once mentioned that we should stay away from negative people, but the truth is some of these negative relationships can be hard to spot sometimes.

Beware Of Heart Stealers

A heart stealer is someone who captures your heart without your permission. S/he is someone who takes God's words and ideas out of your heart when you are carried away.

You must have seen and known them, but you don't recognize them.

10 Things I'd Say to Someone Going Through a Heartbreak

Last week, I received an email from a sweetheart who has just gone through a painful breakup. When she shared details of her story with me, it wasn't enough for me to say, "sweetheart, be strong!"

10 Things to Tell Someone Going Through a Heartbreak

There seems to be something about this number - Ten. The number has been frequently appearing on me these days. I hope to get it figured out soon. Even when I looked through my published articles, I found a couple of 10's flashing back at me. I'm like, "Like seriously?!"

PODCAST: Go Through That Pain (2)

We all go through something that changes us. The changes might be produced by pain.

I have discovered that people who inspire the world are those who have gone through a painful experience.

Today, people talk about pain.

Rays of Pain. . .