When a Girl Mom is Having a Boy

Right from the beginning, I knew it was a boy. Nothing was different physically, but I could feel his wild spirit. One day I told my husband, “I feel like I became a lion to give birth to a lion” because at the time, I was deeply and widely studying various resources on what it means to be a Christian who is as bold as a lion (Proverbs 28:1). I just knew we were expecting a baby boy.

Baby Boy Loading…

Lately, my blog has become a constant swirl of all things pregnancy, and to my loyal sweethearts, I promise to return to more of my “old ways” once this little darling arrives. For now, I couldn’t resist taking a moment to sip in all the emotions that this season brings.

It’s my last pregnancy (amen?), and I’m determined not to miss out on any part of being pregnant. Lol! 

Jokes aside, I actually enjoy capturing my feelings with words before they fly away. It’s my thing. Remember when I shared what it feels like;

• to be single when all my friends were getting married,
• to be engaged,
• to be a newly married woman (one week old),
• to be pregnant for the first time (1st trimester, 2nd trimester and 3rd trimester),

I even also shared what it feels like to be a broke entrepreneur. Wow, is there anything else I haven’t shared with you on this Heart Rays?? You see! Please, allow me share what it feels like to be a girl mum expecting a baby boy. 

So with that being said, I’m both excited and nervous about entering a whole new world of being a boy mom!

Top Tips for Achieving Your New Year Goals in 2025

Happy New Year! We made it! Yay! What are your goals for the year? Whatever they are, be sure to find these tips very helpful. 

30 Tips For Winning Goals in 2025

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#1

Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

#2

Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

#3

Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

Personal Development Tips For Every Year And Everyone

Why do you want to improve yourself? Perhaps you want to learn new things, replace bad habits, become more productive, find emotional balance, or improve your relationships? Whatever it is, be sure to find these tips very helpful. 

30 Personal Development Tips For 2022

#1

Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

#2

Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

#3

Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

How To Practically Live Daily For God

Living life, in this earthly realm, is a constant war against darkness and the kingdom of darkness. We have no choice even if we try to live in denial. We are fighting every day.

Living Daily For Jesus

The day of judgment is swiftly approaching, and if our eyes are open, we can see that already the righteous judgements of God are being visited upon the earth. A friend of mine recently said, "We are having a rude awakening before the great awakening." I believe it.

It's been an awakening experience for me these past days. My heart is vehemently turned to the things that matter most.

Have you ever felt a mysterious stirring within you, as if your hidden personal destiny was to engage in a noble war against the forces of darkness? This is God calling you to live for Him.

A Woman Is The Girl Who Accepts Herself

I only started recognizing myself as a woman in my late 20s. I was very much OK with being just a girl.

I Am Woman 

In my early 20s, I felt the need to be perfect. Always. I wanted to be pretty enough for attention, but not too pretty because pretty girls were called bad names. I wanted to be free enough to have fun with everyone, but not too free to well. . .be one of those bad names. I wanted to be everything to everyone all the time

It was draining.

It took me almost half of a decade to know that I am a pretty woman whether married or not.

Don't Do Things You Will Regret Later (3): I Almost Dated A Married Man

Hi sweethearts of my blogosphere! I am sharing lessons from being a 20-something just before my journey into 30s begins. I will be hitting the big three-0 on the 26th day of the coolest month, June.

This post is the fourth lesson. I hope it inspires you in some way. Happy reading!

Dating A Married Man

I’m not necessarily proud of it, but I’ve been with a married man. I was young and totally didn’t understand the consequences of perpetuating such bad behaviour.

Spending the first two decades of my life in school conditioned me to be intense and results-oriented about everything.

You set out to do A, B or C and either you accomplish them or you don’t. If you do, you’re great. If you don’t, you fail.

But in my 20s I learned that life doesn’t actually work that way all the time. Sure, it’s nice to always have goals and have something to work towards, but I’ve found that actually attaining all of those goals is not the point.

Going a half way through might be your most successful outcome.

I'll explain. . .

DIARY: These 20 Things I Learnt In My 20s Are Blockbusters

Hi people! It's exactly a month to my 30th birthday and I have thinking a lotttttt! In a good way, though. Yes! And I realized that the lessons I learned all through my 20-somethings are blogblusters, actually.

I'm going to be taking you on a very large explosive-bomb journey. Get ready!

20 Lessons Before 30 Begins

We all have secrets.

Secrets that are very deep and some that are not so very intense.

Some secrets are shared when the right time comes while some will never ever see the light of day.

I will be hitting thirty on Friday, 26 June. And the time has come for me to share some of my secrets with you. I will be using the last few days of my 20s to share things you definitely haven't heard me say. And even if you were among those who were affected, you would have never read it from me in a manner such as this.

My secrets, which would be both inspiring and entertaining, will be shared daily from Monday June 1 until the day before my birthday, Thursday June 25.

Here is a sneak peek of my life at 20s:

Taking A Break From Taking A Break

Hi sweetheart. Welcome to a brand new week. Hope you are doing great! 

Until His Kingdom Come

Aside from the very first two weeks after my Wedding Day, these past two weeks have been the most exciting, refreshing and eventful one. I literally was locked up at home with my husband for the entire period. And trust me, I enjoyed every minute of it! 

It’s surprising how loud silence can be. Especially when you’re not used to it. This has been my experience each day, sitting there in the arms of the one I love. Alone. It was beautifully silent — but for the oscillating sound of our neighbour's generator set — and my soul decompressed from weeks on end in the rush to achieve my goals. My body and soul has found fresh air there that was hard to come by before the lockdown. I am grateful.

I want you to join me. Not in my husband's arms (that is never going to happen) but in some silent, occasional solitude of your own. You need a break from the chaos, from the noise and the crowds, more than you may think at first. You need the spiritual disciplines of silence and solitude.

Six Pointers To Choosing Your Perfect Match

Some months ago, I found this article on a WhatsApp group that I do not exactly enjoy being a part of. (Lol. If given the choice, I'd delete the group).

Anyway, according to the poster, this article was originally written by Reverend Ebenezer Diyaolu. I believe it would be helpful to my single/married friends, so I copied it for you.

6 Mates You Must Marry 

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your perfect match! 

You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on six dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.

Take The Blame First

Yesterday, I had the privilege of addressing the church about my newly published book, 'He Wasn't My Husband'. And I am not proud to say that I shed tears in front of everyone there!

It's Your Responsibility

I was speaking as the author of 'He Wasn't My Husband' at church — my new church where most people have seen/met/known me for only less than a year, and were relatively still trying to form an opinion about me. Here I was giving them the basis for their opinion of me.

It was a hard thing sharing this path of my journey with them.

I told the church I had dated many guys before I got married.

I told the church that I wanted to be married at 23, so I dated these guys hoping it will lead to marriage.

I told the church that none of the guys I dated became my husband.

I told the church that I was a messed up young woman yet trying to get married at the time.

I told them all these in tears. . .

Well, thank God they didn't laugh at me!

6 "Jazzed Up" Reasons For You To Stay In Your Current Job A Little Longer

It's Career-Wednesday! There are days when certain happenings push my mind to consider dusting up my CV again, updating it and sending it across to another company. Yet, something tells me I'm right where I need to be in this particular season of my life. Why? What makes you remain on that job? Let's talk!

Why Stay In Your Current Job

Just when I wanted to move away from the spot I had stood for more than thirty minutes, the bus plying my route arrived. Jeez. I almost missed it.

As I rode home, I thought about how often we make the mistake of losing our composure and jumping ship just when things are about to turn around for us. How many times have we got frustrated with our circumstances and forfeited a blessing, simply because we refused to wait, to remain, to stay?

8 Practical Ways To Be Good At Your Job

Happy Career–Wednesday! Whether you are employed or you own your business, learn to do your job and do it well. Whether it's menial and tedious, or tough and high-paying, learn how to do the job, regardless of how difficult you think it might be.

How To Be Good At Your Job

1. KEEP LEARNING

• Treat your job as important and do it to the very best of your ability. Don't stand still but learn all the time, stay ahead of your industry and new developments. Put in extra hours if you must but don't be seen to be too hardworking – a laid-back approach gains you more respect.

Pick One Goal And Follow Through

Happy New Week, sweethearts of my blogosphere! How are you doing? Missed me? I sure missed you. Do you get easily distracted? Do you do so many things at the same time. Same here. But if we look closely, we are actually slowing down our progress. Let's pick one thing, focus on it, and see to its completion.

Follow Through

Many of us believe that multitasking is the only way to successfully stay on track with our busy schedules, so we embrace this approach at work. But in its core, the only thing that happens when we are multitasking is that we switch our focus from one task to another. This can be time-consuming and can lead to making more mistakes.

Today's inspiration is a simple one:

Pick one primary goal for the week, and measure your success on that basis.

School Uniform Inspired Outfit

Hi sweeties. Enjoying your Sunday? Today's style post reminds me of my school uniforms, amazing where the inspiration comes from in fashion.

Dressed For School

I rocked this outfit to work on a Monday in September. I realized I only posted it on Instagram and not on the blog. Well, I had thought it wasn't necessary but then again, an outfit post becomes a go-to when you absolutely want to stick to your blog schedule and not leave the day blank.

It's Style-Sunday. Style we must blog and post we must have. Isn't that what they call being consistent!?

Achieve More By Interpreting Your Client's Dream

It's Career-Wednesday! I've been dying to finish this article for over a month now. When the inspiration came, I didn't know how best to write it in words. It was so deep that I had to chill for days. Thank God it has finally come through.

Whether you have your own business or you have a boss you work for, you've got customers/clients to please. Meeting the needs of your client is a crucial part of growing a successful business or career.

This' a long post but I pray that you find inspiration. :)

Reading Your Client’s Mind

I am currently wearing the shoes of both an employee and an entrepreneur. There are really no perils wearing both shoes if you are being paid and constantly using not less than 70% of your inspired skills. The only exhausting bit can be being able to read the mind of the client and meeting crazy deadlines.

Blessedly, in both shoes, I do the Media thing.

How To Know A Fool (10 Things They Do)

Hi sweets. How was your weekend? Sure you had more awesome moments than awkward. Huh?

One time I sat down and asked myself "Come, Amaka, are you not just being foolish here?" It was a your-mumu-don-do moment for me. I had to re-adjust and re-align my heart to the most important thing.

Looking back, I think it was God practically taking me through a study on the foolishness of men. Let’s explore the Bible to help us define who a fool really is . . .

Who A Fool Is

We've heard it over and over and over again that the Bible is the greatest book in the world. It is the textbook of all textbooks, the dictionary of all dictionaries and the concordance of all concordances. It is great like that.

The Word of God is the basis and ultimate authority for our definitions and conclusions.

The Bible defines A Fool in several verses, this is but one of the reasons why the study of “who a fool is” is important.

Cut Something Out

Hello sweethearts of my blogosphere. You good? I'm in a happy and peaceful place. God has shown me mercy and given me grace. I want to extend this grace to you today.

Cut Something Out

I won't want to bore you with stories behind this article because all I want is for you to get the message.

How To Create Personal Time For Yourself When You Don't Have The Time

No matter how much you love what you do, keeping a balance between work and your physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional wellbeing is IMPORTANT.

Create Personal Time

It had been a hurricane weekend. I skipped a few "personal" time and the fatigue had stormed my heart and left a trail of emotional debris. Even sleep didn't relieve the weakness. Was it the event, or just my body's edging into midlife that had made me so weary? That was when I started thinking about taking a break.

We are all busy.

Being busy is good but our lives doesn't have to be so rushed that we can't see where the time is running to.

5 Shocking Realities You Discover As You Journey Through Life

We all get drilled with certain lessons in life. Sometimes it takes repeated expressions to really get it into you, and other times one powerful experience drives the point home forever. Here are 5 shocking things I’ve discovered about life at this point in my life.

5 Shocking Realities

Realities are always shocking.

For some, in their reality, it is marriages being delayed. You had wanted to be married at certain age, but you're now older and wondering.

For some, in their reality, it is child birth being delayed. You had wanted to have a baby immediately after, but not yet.

For some, in their reality, it is finding a job being difficult. You know you're smart but no organization has seen that. 

For some, it is getting into school taking a toll. So many things you can't explain.

We realize these "realities" mostly when we are alone and it can be disappointing than shocking. 

Shocking reality literally shocks you to the bones and marrow. It shakes your view about life. It's a rude awakening.

Shocking reality, to me, is when I realize what I believed in few years ago as reality was just an assumption. Here are 5 of them:

5 Life Lessons I Learnt From Travelling On My Birthday

I had gone through the events lined up for the weekend and realized that I was going to be travelling back to Lagos, Nigeria on my birthday. "I'm going to be on the road on my birthday. Can you imagine?" I told my friends. Then they gave me the "eeyah" soundtrack (an expression that shows sympathy).

I was totally apprehensive about June 26, 2017. But when the day came, I explored it with a free spirit. I discovered life.

Life Lessons From Travelling

Travelling on June 26 has opened my eyes to some things about life - things that are common or maybe undervalued, but have great significance: Life Is Like Travelling.

I love to explore.

I explore moments in my life - everything I see, feel, think, wear and know is turned inside-out.

One moment can teach you more than a classroom, job, or relationship ever will.