How to Be Lovely and Stylish (A Very Quick Guide)

Hi Lovelies. How are you doing? I know… This was meant to be a Sunday-Style post but some other responsibilities have had the best of me in the past few days. It’s better late than never, isn’t it? 😉

Style + Lovely = Stylish Loveliness

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I have a gist for you but let’s get straight into today’s post. 

What does it mean to be Lovely?

adj. love·li·er, love·li·est

1. Full of love; loving.
2. Inspiring love or affection.
3. Having beauty that appeals to the emotions as well as to the eye. 
4. Enjoyable; delightful.

n. pl. love·lies

1. A beautiful person, especially a woman.
2. A lovely object. Dictionary source

I love these definitions.

Every Christian, young or old, should be lovely. The question is, are you lovely? Would the people in your life say, "Wow, she's a lovely person." I thought I'd share the above definition of the word lovely because it really captures what I believe a lovely person should be - full of love, inspiring, having appealing beauty (both inside and out), enjoyable and delightful.

The work of loveliness ultimately starts from within and, among many other things, is revealed in the following ways:

1. The way you style yourself 
2. The way you speak
3. The way you carry yourself

Hold that thought while I show you what we wore to church last Sunday. By we I mean, my lovely family and I. 

I Woke Up Feeling Like a Failure, and Here's What I Did About It

“Happy New Month, Mummy Kamma,” the woman at my daughter’s school greeted. “Oh, is it already February?” I was surprised that I didn’t figure it out sooner.

The enemy had me on a battle throughout the night. I am not even kidding.

When You Feel like a Failure

We all have dark moments.

There are times when things don’t go according to plan.

Maybe a relationship issue. Maybe the project didn’t fall into place. Or, maybe you didn’t get the promotion. When you fall short of achieving a goal it’s easy to feel let down.

One Dark Moment

Last night was one of my dark moments. And to think that my day was super lit until I checked out LinkedIn few hours before bed. Oh, I wish I didn’t. 

I can’t figure out what made me visit that platform but I got stuck in my mind when I started to compare my profile with some other persons’. I started to panic. 

Don’t be a Silhouette of Your Authentic Self

Welcome to November! I am really excited about this month. I can’t really point a finger to WHAT exactly I am excited about but I’m very sure that it’s partly because I am growing up and becoming the woman I am called to be. Wow! What a woman I am!

Don’t Become Your Own Best Impersonator

I have been gleaning from a number of inspiring women since the WOWMAN Conference. As in! God has women oh! I see the amazing things He is doing with/through the lives of these women and I’m like, “I want to be in this army!”. 

I am currently seeking God’s face to UNDERSTAND the uniqueness and specifications of my design, makeup and purpose. I am seeking clear-cut direction and focus-driven vision. I have a burning desire to step into my season as a woman who is:

ACTIVELY positioned in her unique place of assignment ✔️

POWERFULLY armed with strategic tools for execution  ✔️

AUDACIOUSLY living out authenticity, grace and love ✔️

50+ Ways To Treat Yourself With Love

Hi! Valentine is over, isn’t it? How are you feeling today? I mean, how are YOU really feeling? Are you being kind to yourself? Have you compared yourself to someone else today? Are you going on and about the past? I honestly want to know.

As Christians, we have definitely read the commandment,“Love Your Neighbour As Yourself.” Yeah? Great. Today’s article emphasizes‘As Yourself’ because how can you love your neighbour as yourself when you don’t even know how to treat yourself with love?

How To Practise Self-Care Using the 5 Love Languages

Yep. It’s post Valentine’s Day, let’s treat ourselves to top-notch self-care by diving into the five love languages and how you can practice them on yourself.

The concept was originally created by Gary Chapman in his book, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, based on his experience facilitating marriage counselling. Essentially what he found out was that couples expressed love in different ways, and if they weren’t clear on how the other person liked to receive love, chances are there was a disconnect in the relationship.

I completely agree with Gary.

Everyone gives and receives love differently. And I’m not just talking about relationships…I’m talking about loving yourself, too! Your love language can also translate into a self care love language and can guide which activities will be most rewarding for you.

Wait.

Personal Development Tips For Every Year And Everyone

Why do you want to improve yourself? Perhaps you want to learn new things, replace bad habits, become more productive, find emotional balance, or improve your relationships? Whatever it is, be sure to find these tips very helpful. 

30 Personal Development Tips For 2022

#1

Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

#2

Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

#3

Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.

This Is How You Break Free From A Narcissistic Relationship

Break up hurts. Rejection on any level is torturing, no matter how you slice it. But getting over a relationship with a Narcissist is a much different kettle of fish.

Breaking Up With A Narcissist 

I have come across the term "narcissism" a couple of times but I have never had any cause to use it. It didn't sound interesting to me. The word only started to make much sense at that point of being brutally honest with myself about a past relationship. For a long time, I lived in the lies that I told myself and it delayed my healing process.

It's been said that "your greatest struggle is your greatest blessing". And relationships are my greatest struggles. 

I've had my share of toxic relationships, or at least what I thought was toxic. Is it fair to say you have too? My guess is that we’ve all endured the company of people who were not shooting for our highest good.

It Takes Courage To Be Vulnerable

Happy New Week! This is something I really need to hear at this time. "Be of good courage, Amaka!" I thought you might also find it helpful.

It Takes Courage

My recently launched book was reviewed by a friend (Chiamaka Uwadoka) who is a qualified lawyer and a Brand and Communications Executive at a reputable oil and gas firm. In her speech, she repeatedly made it clear that the author of 'He Wasn't My Husband' was a brave person. And I didn't believe her because I think I am not the very least brave woman I know.

When she said the author was vulnerable, I totally agreed.
Calling me brave? No, I don't think so.

Perhaps accepting my vulnerability is what she calls bravery.

Vulnerability is possibly an act of bravery because you merge with your authentic self, instead of hiding behind a facade to appease others.

You’ve been hurt. Yes, we all have. But loving from a place of hurt isn’t loving. It’s hiding. And you will never hit the high notes of love you’re searching for if you’re hiding.

Don’t give yourself any other choice. Be fearless. Be vulnerable. Show yourself. Put yourself out there, completely. Eyes closed. Arms open.

PHOTO: Note To Self

Dear Amaka,

you can be so much more. 

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PHOTO: What Is Art, Really?

Few minutes ago, I was playing with an app on my phone called 'PicsArt' and viola! this beautiful picture happened! The tag line on this app says "everyone is an artist". So I'm wondering, perhaps we should ask: what is art, really?

What Art Means To Me
 

I have worked closely with various kinds of artists. As a matter of fact, I work in a creative industry. So I am open to a wide range of art. However, one thing I find common among every artist I have come in contact with, is their emotions and personal experiences. They pour it out like streams of water. It's inspiring HOW they share it.

Are You Open To Love?

It's Love-Wednesday! This one is for the singles. :)

Attitude is everything when we approach people. They are watching. They are listening. And they are taking notes. I hope we are sending the right signals. 

Make Your Heart Ready

Source: G+

This is the time to work on your interaction with people around you and make sure your connections are sound. If you have issues with anyone, please deal with them before someone comes along. You don't want a barrier in that area.

God is the only perfect Father. Humans are guaranteed to disappoint. We've all been hurt, but we can still choose to love.

What Maturity Means

Yay! My birthday is in 4 days. I've been asked how old I am in the past couple of days, and when I revealed, some expressed how they thought I was older while others exclaimed they thought I was younger.

I asked each party WHY they thought so. Most of them considered when I graduated from the university and others considered ALL the crazy things I do.

Well, we may think that maturity is about age and physical development, but that's wrong. Age is only a number! Found this article on a Christian WhatsApp group and thought to share.

20 Definitions Of Maturity

1. Maturity is when you accept other people the way they are and their level of maturity.

2. Maturity is when you understand that your ideas are not always the best.

Time To Unleash The "Child" In You

Sometimes we wish we could be children again. But the good news is: We can. You may be "grown up" now but your inner child is still alive.

Can you think of anything you have done in the past that you would describe as fun?

What's Fun To You?

Image source: G+

There is an unspoken expectation that comes with being a “grown up”, everything child-like dissipates with that growth forever. But what we may have not realized is that the coping mechanisms we need as adults to get around any stressful season are inherently learned when we were children.

Note To Self: You Are Not Crazy

Do you have those times when you seem to lose your mind and you can’t find it? Or, when you can't believe what your mind is thinking?

Note To Self

"Are you crazy?!"

Crazy is the word to describe this past few days. I have a lot going on in my life . . . work being very busy, creating Ankara accessories, blogging, sewing, voicing, being a woman. Not to mention complicated past relationships and awkward current ones. So yes there are valid reasons to think I'm going crazy.

This Is All About Face Modelling

I have never appreciated makeup artists and the art in makeup by itself as much as I did yesterday. I looked at the mirror and couldn't believe what I beheld.

Face Modelling 101

Money is the only thing that can motivate me to comfortably wear makeup on my face. I cannot be wearing mascara and carving my eyebrows for nothing. Makeup for me is strictly business.

PHOTO: Laugh At Yourself

This little group of words speaks volume. Thought to share it with you today.

Wouldn't you rather laugh at yourself?

P.S I just got to know Nora Ephron. According to Wikipedia, Nora died on June 26, 2012 (my birthday). We share a "creative spirit" in common as she was a journalist, essayist, playwright, screenwriter, novelist, producer, director, and blogger.

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Heart Rays . . . giving out  the light.

70+ Reasons Behind My Smile

Someone said to me; "Amaka, I love your smiles". I had to process that statement for a while because my teeth are not-so-white. What exactly is about my smile? Lol. In as much as I'm unsure if that should be taken as a compliment, I'd like to simply take it as one. I've got a beautiful smile. :)

70+ Reasons Behind My Smile

I believe the simple act of smiling does far more than making you look friendly and approachable. It can change your life and the lives of those around you. It is a positivity booster.

Who Are You? I Am ____

I am learning a new habit. Or, I should say, I am forming a good habit of being conscious of whatever it is I attach to the words "I am".

Who Are You?

Last week, I had a weird dream during a nap. In that dream, an envelope in the form of a man was coming towards me, and I was running away from it. The nearer it got, the faster I ran. Then I woke up with the scene replaying itself on my mind.

DIARY: Thank God I Am Not Yet Married

The title of this entry may be funny but it is the truth. Being grateful for your current relationship status is a practical way to face your present as well as your future.  :)

Thank God I Am Not Yet Married

Lord, I am sincerely grateful that I have not walked down the aisle yet. I would have married prematurely . . .

RELATIONSHIP: When You Are Overwhelmed By Loneliness

I am one of those who is grateful to  God that Valentine's Day is on a Sunday this year. I will be so loving God like. Hehehe . . .

Hi sweets! How have you been? I missed you "a lil". If you're following me on Twitter, you'd have known that my phone packed up last night. But thanks to my brother, he did something nice. Now I can blog. :)

Overcoming Loneliness

Today wasn't one of my proudest days. I'd probably be ashamed to share it with you. It was one of those moments in my life when loneliness almost gripped me.

DIARY: Don't Call Me Crazy When I Scream

Erm . . . officially speaking, this is my first "Dear Diary" entry! I'm excited. I'm scared. I'm nervous. Mixed feelings. Wondering which part of me I should let out first - cool or crazy?

Crazy Expectations

I'll start by being partially transparent. I say “partially” because there are some things that I am not ready to scream out to the world or even admit to myself yet.