Six Pointers To Choosing Your Perfect Match

Some months ago, I found this article on a WhatsApp group that I do not exactly enjoy being a part of. (Lol. If given the choice, I'd delete the group).

Anyway, according to the poster, this article was originally written by Reverend Ebenezer Diyaolu. I believe it would be helpful to my single/married friends, so I copied it for you.

6 Mates You Must Marry 

One of the ways your marriage will not add to the rate of divorce in our world today is for you to marry your mate and if you are married already, make your spouse your perfect match! 

You see that statement of ' Am I your mate?' does not apply in marriage. You must marry your mate. I will like to talk on six dimensions you and the person you want to marry or you have married must be mate.

8 Unusual Tips For The Perfect Honeymoon

The Monday following our Wedding, my husband and I left Lagos, Nigeria (the bubbly city where we live) to celebrate our wedded bliss. It was the trip of a lifetime — the first long, exotic trip we'd ever taken alone together.

With great pleasure I am going to give you insider tips for planning a great honeymoon vacation without going in debt.

Perfect Honeymoon Tips

You just got married! Now what? Go on your most-deserved post wedding vacation. The honeymoon will allow you some much needed time to rest, recoup and process what just happened.

Don’t conform to what you think a honeymoon should be – take time to really consider what makes you happy and what you really want to see or do while away. Just because somebody else’s honeymoon was perfect for them, doesn’t mean it will be perfect for you. Go gently.

These are my top seven tips to guide you on discovering what's perfect for you:

#1

Be Specific About What You Want

Talk with your beloved about what your vision is for the honeymoon, and ask your beloved to share theirs. What are your top three priorities? Spa, gym and sports? Or cultural sights and traditional cuisine? Or tour sites and travel rides? Beaches and waterfalls? Two of you should make a list —and highlight the similarities. Your top choices should be reflected in the destination you choose.

Even though I had a memorable wedding ceremony, I wanted a more memorable honeymoon. M-E-M-O-R-A-B-L-E was our keyword, so we went all out for that.

Dear Diary, I'm One Month Married!

Life has changed. Significantly changed. I wanted to settle into newlywed life and find a balance between enjoying every minute with Kachi and working a 9-5 before heading back to the blog. But happily for you, he loves when I write and is my biggest encourager. So here I am writing how I feel about being married for a month.

One Month In

Have you ever stopped to think just how much can happen in one week, one month. . . one year?

Sometimes it still doesn’t feel real. I’m a wife. I have a husband. Just how?

By this time last year, I was as single as a slice of bread, still living in my parent's house, copywriting full-time and keeping fairly busy. Now just a year later, I have been married for one month, marveling at all the many (and wonderful) changes that took place in just one year. A courtship, an engagement, a wedding, and now. . . I’m a happy wife. Wow.

Issa Sexy September

Don't be like "eww! She's so carnal!". Sexy is a spiritual word. Get over it. Lol. Yes, I am using the S-word this month. The Bible is filled with sex and romance. Go read Songs of Solomon before you argue.

God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life tho. (1 Thessalonians 4:7)

Happy Sexy September

As I navigate my journey with God, He gives me a Word for each year, each month, each week, each day. Even though sometimes I miss it, the Word never returns void.

Dear Diary, All My Friends Are Getting Married Again

Hi Sweethearts! How was your weekend? I was eager to share about how my weekend went with you right after attending another wedding on Saturday but honestly, it's not coming out nice. I have deleted my introductory paragraphs more than twice. Here is what my draft had been like since Sunday until noon today . . .

I'm Not Married Yet

Today I'm like:

I blog blood. I blog tears. And I blog smiles.

Sometimes I wish I could write anonymously. Sometimes I wish I could tell the truth without giving myself away. Sometimes I wish I could be the blogger who only shares with the world about what she wears, what she knows, and what she has come to discover through her journey with God, without necessarily sharing what she genuinely feels in her heart. But, then, if I am that blogger who hides, maybe I wouldn't have counted the third year of being here.

Sometimes I write stuff that makes me cover my face in shame. Sometimes I write things that could make a potential suitor afraid to approach me. Sometimes I think I give myself off away too much. Sometimes I think I should stop sharing personal lessons and stories. But, then, if I do not write the words I am ashamed of, maybe the words I am proud of would never exist.

I rip my heart open and I pour out the words.

Well, this is neither a bloody, nor a teary, nor a happy entry . . .

When You Love God But Lust After The Opposite Sex

Are you shocked that I struggle? Please, don't be. For months I fought a losing battle against lust. It wouldn’t be profitable for me to go into detail describing my defeats. Just so you know I’ve been there.

Overwhelmed With Lust

I am one of those women who have found myself struggling with lust. I am not addicted to pornography or masturbation, but I am distracted to lust after handsome (can I say "hot"?), tall and smart men.

RELATIONSHIP: Every Woman Should Take A Deliberate Fast From Men

Sometimes it’s hard to discover your true purpose and identity when you are always attached or involved with someone else. Can you take a break?

30-Day Man Fast

First of all, don't get it twisted. This is not saying men are evil or distractions. This is also not a “Girl, you don’t need a man, be an Independent woman” type of post. I am not telling you to leave the man in your life if you are in a God-ordained, loving relationship.

RELATIONSHIP: How To Deal With Being Horny As A Christian Single

Lol. Yeah, we all get horny! It doesn't make any difference if you're a virgin or not. Our hormones do not care whether we are born again or not. They do not care whether we have the Holy Spirit in us or not. They do what they do . . . drive us crazy!

Dealing With Your Sex Drive

I am not supposed to say this, but I will: I told one of my boyfriends that I was horny. And he was beyond surprised, "you get horny too?"

Yes, honey. We get as horny as you guys do.

What You Should Look Out For In Your Relationship

Hiya! It's Love-Wednesday! One of the most essential needs of our heart is to love and be loved. Since we are wired for relationships, one would think it is easy to choose partners. But the truth is, some of us repeatedly choose the wrong people. 

No More Wrong Relationships

Someone recently asked me whether I was ready for marriage, I am yet to answer that question.

RELATIONSHIP: Here's What I Think About Being A Side-chick

Yep! I've been a side-chick for a while now. And now that I'm certified, I guess it's time to move on with my life. *shrugs*

The Side Chick Tag

Men can be so sweet. They are very enticing and can lure us in with their smooth talk. They sell dreams that money can't even buy. But, jeez! Why do those dreams sound so good? :(

RELATIONSHIP: Pleasure In Sexual Purity

It's real. Sexual drive does not respect anybody. You can be male or female, black or white, young or rich, single or married, happily married or unhappily married. Nobody is safe!

Striving For Sexual Purity 

Once you have resolved to stay pure before marriage or within marriage, be prepared to fight for your life because you have automatically signed up for a wrestling match. Lol.

RELATIONSHIP: What To Do When You Feel Ignored

There were times when people loved me and I ended up ignoring them. There are also times when people I love ignored me right back. Sometimes I felt good and other times I felt the most miserable and foolish. :(

Let's talk about how to overcome the miserable feeling . . . 

What To Do When They Ignore You

The first thing you need to know is never to degrade yourself or lose your respect. Whether you are being given all the attention in the world or being ignored does not in any way change who you are.

RELATIONSHIP: 5 Practical Ways To Abstain From Sex Before Marriage

Why Do I Keep Sinning? How Do I Stop having sex? How Do I Overcome the urge to sin? 

These are valid questions. No matter where you live, your age or your background, we will be tried and tested with sin in our lives. Living in a world full of sinful temptation even makes the battle for purity much tougher.

How To Avoid Fornication

It surprises me that the purity commandment is confusing to some people. I understand that it can be difficult to honour, but I don't see why it's so difficult to understand. I've had discussions on this topic with so many people - some of whom actually indicate that they are Christians. There really is a lot of confusion even in the church - so much that some people see nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. God help us.

RELATIONSHIP: How To Overcome The Guilt of Sin (Fornication & Adultery)

Oh! The guilt. The shame. The memories keep replaying in your mind. You are almost frustrated. That feeling! It is good to feel bad for doing something wrong but you should never condemn yourself. Never.

No Condemnation

When I'm asked to describe the niche audience of my blog, I do not hesitate to say "Christian youths". I'm a Christian who blogs for Christians and soon-to-be Christians. Youths who have accepted Jesus Christ as their Lord and Saviour. And together we are walking towards knowing God better, living in total obedience and fulfilling purpose. Or aren't we? Of course. 

RELATIONSHIP: Is Phone Sex A Sin? (16+ Post)

I know. I know you have a different view on this topic, but hear me out first. OK? I must confess I've once had phone sex. I didn't know it was called 'phone sex' until recently tho. I'm such a jew girl. Or isn't that what they call people like me? Lol.

Phone Sex

You already know I talk about love and relationship every Wednesday. Right? Not as the world will but as Christ will let me. Not out of the blues but within my personal experience and discovery. I dunno how to blog without giving myself away (even when it hurts). I can't help it. Phew. 

RELATIONSHIP: When He says "Be Patient With Me"

(I wrote this article many weeks ago. It took me a while to make up my mind to click the 'publish' button.)

The other day, Mr. Man said to me; "Baby, I need you to be patient with me". I didn't understand. For the first in my life, the word "patient" became strange. "What does he mean by that??" "Huh??"

Be Patient With Love

If you've been following me for a while now, you’ll know that I am an open book. You can literally read me because I share from real life experience - my very own personal stories. That's the only way I feel like I'm connecting my Heart Rays with yours.

SEX is a Form of Play (18+ Post)

He. . .llo! I feel like I've not been here in a year. How are my sweethearts doing? How was the weekend? I was with my friend (you-know-who) and we talked about sex! It's quite interesting to find an angle to write about on this kinda thing. :)

Sex is a Form of Play

What is sex? Sex is a form of play. And, might I say, it's the best form of play ever. Lol. Well, I believe so. I actually have an issue with those people (theologians) who make us think sex is an uptight thing. They turn sex into something totally functional and designed only for procreation. They even think talking about sex is unholy. They turn me off, and I'm sure they turn a lot of people off too. Mtchww!

NEWS: Yay! No more Sex on Blogger

Let's not lie, sex sells. In fact, it is the main focus for any product to be marketed. It's always like Let's have sex on this idea. This is not a new concept to anyone who works in the media and advertising industry like me. We (I dare not exclude myself) use this idea to get more viewers, more listeners and more traffic. But what happens when the "oga at the top" says no display of nudity or sexual activity is to be permitted anymore? Gobe!

No more Sex on Blogger

Hehhehe. . . I'm so excited about this news jhorr! Good news literally turn me on.

My Husband and I Married as Virgins - Nikki Laoye

I love positive news! The news which bring hope, boost faith and affirms that God lives. I have pledged to never stop to give good news for the rest of my life. Yeah, you read that right. A friend once told me that my good news are weird. Lol. What do you say?

Oyenike Laoye is a Nigerian recording artist, songwriter, singer and dancer. I've always loved her voice and music. And after reading about this feature on Saturday Punch Newspaper, I respect her. 

Let's have Sex with our Ideas

Sex. Sex. Sex. It is everywhere and everything. It beats my imagination.

We live in a sexy world. These are days when sexiness drives the market. If you want to sell a product, then you got to create a sex appealing advertisement. Like magic, your product will be everywhere.