DIARY: November To Remember (2021)

As you know, it’s been my custom every year since 2017 to share each day in November  with you by a sentence or two.

November To Revival

I tagged November 2021 as “Revival”. Everything on my mind was leading me to get my fire back. For some reasons, I felt as though I wasn’t burning or even if I was, then I wasn’t burning hot enough. I was becoming lethargic and complacent in a number of things that I was too tired of using “nursing mother” as an excuse. 

I can’t fast. Why? I’m a nursing mother.

I can’t attend this and that. Why? I’m a nursing mother.

I can’t do this and that now. Why? I’m a nursing mother. 

Days before the start of the month, I decided to decide that this year’s November To Remember would be a REVIVAL. 

DIARY: Thankful For A Great Support System In My Pregnancy Season

I am deeply thankful and blessed to have this amazing people encourage, uplift and help me get through my first pregnancy phase. God bless you!

My Support System

According to Merriem-Webster dictionary; a support system is a network of people who provide an individual with practical or emotional support.

There's no one word to describe this set of amazing people in my life. . . Family, friends and peers. I guess my support system is the closest thing that can be used.

I just want to thank you. Thank you for everything you have done for me, everything you do for me and everything I'm sure you will do for me in the future. I am extremely blessed to have you in my corner. 

This entry is specifically for those who gave me PRACTICAL and EMOTIONAL support during my pregnancy season. 

Uche (My Husband’s Cousin): Washed my clothes, cleaned the house, cooked and did the dishes for two weeks. She came at short notice. Quite helpful and resourceful.

STYLE: You Don’t Have To Buy Maternity Clothes (Stop Wasting Money)

I’ve come to discover that being pregnant is an interesting season— emphasis on “interesting”.

What’s interesting during those 40 weeks can be so out of the ordinary — it's nice to do things so you still feel like yourself throughout the season. For me, that meant holding onto my personal style, even though I couldn’t wear most of my clothes anymore.

Maternity Clothes Without Spending 

Can you wear regular clothes when Pregnant? — and the answer is absolutely YES! In fact, I make it a point to wear non-maternity clothes while pregnant. Not only is it totally possible to wear non-maternity clothes while pregnant, but it is also flattering. You can find regular non-maternity clothes that will accommodate a bump to be just as comfy and supportive as maternity clothes, and that you can continue to wear postpartum.

Judging by my imposed sedentary lifestyle, I spent a lot of my pregnancy in my birthday suit. When I was clothed, my go-to pregnancy looks were the same clothes I have always had in my wardrobe: I actually wanted to buy new clothes that would grow with my belly but I find most maternity clothes are pretty expensive and not that cute. So buying too many pieces I probably won’t wear again just didn’t make any sense to me. I decided to explore creative ways to wear non-maternity clothes as a mum-to-be.

It was challenging at times, but it turned out to be the same kind of strategy I used to repeat my clothes without anyone knowing.

DIARY: I am So Over Being Pregnant At 38 Weeks

At this point in time, I am feeling all the emotions: excitement, nerves, fatigue. . . and SO over being pregnant.

38 weeks pregnant face, lol

A colleague’s wife who was on her 38th week of pregnancy like me had been delivered of her baby yesterday. And that got me even more READY to push! 

Below is a video of Kachi and I sharing how ready we are for our baby at 38 weeks. 

I have asked the doctor what I could do to induce labour. I even googled it. I am trying every natural thing Google has suggested. 

“The baby can come anytime from now....”  

Whoosh! I am READYYYY!!!!

P.s This post was drafted in June.

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Week By Week Baby Bump Progression Photos

I have loved taking my own photos every few weeks and watching my body change and grow up to birthing a human!!

Baby Bump Photos

As cliché as it sounds, witnessing what the female mind, body and spirit can pull off, first hand, has been pretty amazing.

Important: I think all women, mothers or not, have this strength inside of them. But pregnancy really does reveal that strength to you.

Growing a big tummy for your baby can be so fascinating. May everyone trying to conceive experience the bliss that comes with pregnancy very soon. Amen.

STYLE: Ankara Maternity Outfit Ideas For Couples That Enjoy Matching Beautifully

Deciding what to wear is hard enough as it is! When it comes to matching outfits with your spouse, there are lots of things to consider. .

Couple Maternity Outfit Inspiration

I promised to share how Kachi and I were consistently matching our outfits throughout our pregnancy journey. Well, here it is. 😊

DIARY: My Third Trimester Update (Pregnancy Journey)

In case you missed it, I officially announced that I was pregnant on YouTube and have already shared my first trimester update and second trimester update on Heart Rays . This is probably the most monumental thing to happen to me in my life so far, and I am documenting my journey here.

This has been on the draft list for so long and now it’s time to publish it. 😊

Week 29 - week 32

This is my third trimester. Third trimester has been interesting. My energy burst from the second trimester is still on. I am living in the MOMENT. No rush at all. 

Our little one seems to be moving and kicking a lot now and I’m enjoying every bit of it. I feel the movement once I sit down and especially when I go to bed and lie down on my side. I can’t describe the feeling but it’s a mixture of weird and amazing. At this stage I’m feeling quite large and ‘heavy’. A few times I’ve felt a twinge up in my ribs where I’m pretty sure baby is sticking a foot, so hyper!

I am beautifully embracing my bump in different Ankara Outfits and feeling really amazing. 

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The biggest thing pregnancy has taught me, is the ability to hold space for multiple competing emotions. I feel so happy and so scared and anxious all at once. I feel excited and nervous, grateful and fearful, prepared and a wreck - all the things at the same time. But I TRUST GOD.

DIARY: MY Second Trimester (Pregnancy Journey)

In case you missed it, I officially announced that I was pregnant on YouTube and have already shared my first trimester update on Heart Rays . This is probably the most monumental thing to happen to me in my life so far, and I am documenting my journey on my blog.

This has been on the draft list for so long and now it’s time to publish it. 😊

Late December 2020 - Early March 2021

Week 13 - week 28

Yet to find a bra that fits 🙈

My second trimester. Here we are already! I’m 21 weeks pregnant as I write this paragraph, and am wondering where the last 4 months have gone. Is it me or is time really beginning to fly by?

Firstly, I’d like to start by saying thank you to everyone that responded to my first trimester post, announcing my pregnancy and detailing some of the emotions I had been experiencing. It was met with an incredibly positive response from everyone. Many of whom, simply thanking me for sharing.

That’s really why I blog – to share my journey, to help you see through my heart and let you know you are not alone.

DIARY: My First Trimester Update (Pregnancy Journey)

Exactly a month ago, I officially announced my pregnancy on YouTube through a music video. It is probably the most monumental thing to happen to me in my life so far, and I am documenting my journey on this blog.

This has been on the draft list for so long and now it’s time to publish it. 😊

Mid September 2020 - Mid December 2020

Week 1 - week 12



My blog, Heart Rays has been with me for the best part of my twenties, and over the years I’ve shared personal anecdotes (choosing a career path, finding love, getting heartbroken, getting a job, battling with lust, quitting a job, getting married, etc) and I enjoy looking back on those from time to time. 

For those who have followed me from the early days, it feels like a natural progression for my blog as I now transcend into my early thirties with my first pregnancy. 

I wouldn’t say finding out I was pregnant wasn’t overwhelming, scary, exciting, surprising etc etc etc. It took me a while to get my head around it. I didn’t know what and how to share the journey. I also didn’t FEEL that it was the right thing to do. However, I spilled my emotions into my private diary most of the time. And now I KNOW this is the right time for me to share publicly.

Dear Diary, 

This is our first child, so everything about my pregnancy has been new. And with that comes a mix of emotions. There’s not a day that goes by that I haven’t thought about my pregnancy and I find myself questioning far more than I would otherwise do — Is this twinge or ache or pain normal? Should I be feeling this exhausted? Why am I getting headaches more often? Why am I not being sick? Is anything even happening in there?

That last sentence might sound funny, but I didn’t have the first scan until around 8 weeks. Because I wasn’t experiencing the normal symptoms (mainly sickness, although I was feeling tired constantly) and of course couldn’t feel anything in my stomach at this point, I started to constantly question whether everything was okay.

I asked Google, “when is the baby supposed to kick my stomach?”. Yeah, something like that. 

How I Found Out I Was Pregnant

When you find out you're pregnant, you may feel happy and excited, or shocked, confused and upset. Everybody is different. 

I was confident we wouldn’t have ANY issues getting pregnant (when we are ready) since Kachi, my husband and I got married as virgins. In retrospect, I got too ahead of myself.

I thought it would be cathartic for me and hopefully helpful for you to write about our journey of wanting a baby. But, I am finding video content to be easier for me to create in this season.