Instead of me to read my Bible, I went to read Toke Makinwa's book, On Becoming. Now see where it has landed me -- a very late Love-Wednesday post -- After many hours of struggling to get myself out of the shock the story stimulated. Phew.
I'm sorry. Let's have some sort of Q n' A relationship session today . . .
Relationship Q n A
Relationships (and marriages) can get boring if they stay perpetually on the same track for too long. We have to WORK hard enough to keep our relationships growing strong, positive and fulfilling, and it requires that both parties (you and your partner) keep each other on your toes.
Like I always say, I am no relationship expert. I am only passionate about love, romance and everything in-between, hence my love to share ideas as well as personal lessons for us to learn, become better and improve in our relationships.
Here we go!
1. Can I Get Back With My Ex?
OK. I think the question should be "when do I give up on my ex, and move on?"
I wish someone can help with a good answer in the comment box. Because I re-posted my answer on Twitter and it didn't go well with certain people.
I personally believe even staying friends with some exes, leaves a door open for the devil to work in the future. It could remind both of you of a painful/ungodly past that should be forgotten.
Accept the end. LET GO. And move on.
2. How Do I Know When I'm In Love?
Love is a VERY powerful emotion. You will know! And if you don't, your friends will let you know!
Actually, it can be very easy to “fall in love” with someone, but there are some questions to ask before deciding if what you are feeling is true love. Like, is this person a Christian, meaning has he given his life to Christ? Is this person just going to play with your emotions, or serious about the relationship?
Love motivates much of our lives. Many make many important decisions based on this emotion, and even get married because they feel that they are “in love.” This may be the reason why some marriages end in divorce. According to the Bible, True love is not an emotion that can come or go, but a decision.
The fact is, there is no stick to determine when we are truly in love with someone, but it is important to discern whether we are following our emotions or following God's will. One thing I have painfully discovered is that: True love is a decision, not just an emotion. True biblical love is loving someone all of the time, not just when you feel “in love.”
3. What should I look out For In A Partner?
First and ABOVE every other thing, the most important relationship that we can have is our personal relationship with Jesus. That relationship comes before all others.
If your relationship with God is on point, then your relationship with a person will reflect that reality. Therefore, a potential partner should be someone who has got a heart focused upon walking in obedience to God's Word and who seeks to live so that his life brings glory to God.
A Christian should be looking for someone who is serious about God and serious about their relationship with you. A Christian boyfriend DO NOT date just for fun; he has marriage in mind.
Please, be free to talk about the qualities you look out for in a future wifey/hubby in the comment box. :)
4. How Do I spice Up My Relationship?
You will find a way to jazz up your relationship by answering the following questions:
- What is the best moment in your relationship so far? (Are you smiling as you recall that moment?)
- How do you show your love for each other?
- When was the last time you said “I love you” or something sweet to your partner?
- Have you changed anything for your partner lately?
- Do you say sorry to your partner even though it’s not your fault?
- When was the last time you had an in-depth conversation with your partner?
- Are you keeping any secrets that you’re afraid of letting your partner know?
- Have you both seen your best and worst selves?
- Have you ever thought about cheating on your partner? Why?
- Have you ever thought about breaking up with your partner and why?
- When it comes to future, do you and your partner have the same relationship goal?
- What makes you happier in a relationship, sharing or sacrificing?
These questions are only for your own reflection, and there’re no right or wrong answers. Just be true to yourself when answering the questions and you may have new insights about your relationship.
5. When is the right time to pray for marriage?
Now. This minute. Pray.
A beautiful marriage isn't all about the money, social life but solid foundation from which it's been built on.
A solid foundation is imperative for a successful marriage and should be settled before you even start to date or court a potential spouse.
Marriage is NOT ONLY A COMMITMENT, but also a covenant with God. It is the promise to stay with ONE person for the rest of your life, no matter whether your spouse is rich, poor, healthy, sick, overweight, underweight, or boring. A Christian marriage should be able overcome every circumstance, including fighting, anger, disaster, depression, bitterness, addiction, and loneliness.
It is no child's play. Start building the foundation already.
Have you got more questions/answers? Betterstill, pick a question and throw us some answers.
Cheers to love!
Written by Nwamaka Ajaegbu