Wednesday, 7 February 2018

RELATIONSHIP: Do We Have To Talk To Each Other Everyday?

Hi sweethearts. It's another Love-Wednesday in February. Yay. Do you think that if you are in a serious relationship, you should stay in contact with your partner every day? Let's talk.

Talking Everyday


Relationships are hardwork. So hard, that sometimes we don't know what we are getting into until reality dawns on us. We’re just so excited about this new person, this new prospect, that we just want to jump to the end where everyone is happy and in love.

Abi? Is it not true?

When you first get together with someone, it often feels really great to talk to the person EVERY DAY. Swept away by new feelings and newness, you want to stay connected to affirm your feelings for each other. You want to check in with them, tell them what a nice time you had the last time you hung out, and find out how their day went. You simply enjoy hearing from them.

Over time, though, checking in with your new boo every day can devolve into . . . a routine.

Constantly asking/being asked “How was your day?" everyday can get pretty boring overtime. It's not necessarily bad oh, however, the conversational touchstone doesn't serve the relationship or help you stay deeply connected to your boo on a daily basis.

It's just not exactly what keeps the relationship going. It's not about the amount of time spent together, but the quality of life in the time shared. 

Lemme chip in a little personal secret here:

I used to be quite clingy with the guys I had dated in the past. Like I would call them more than twice everyday. And they MUST respond even if they were busy. If they don't, I throw tantrums. "Why didn't you pick my calls" "why didn't you call me yesterday?"

However, recently I discovered that I couldn't be bothered about speaking with a boo everyday or not. On one hand, I think it's a sign of maturity. On the other hand, I fear it might be that I'm not into the boo like that. Hence, this post.

So, when boo wants you to talk with them every day . . .

Yes, Talk Every Day Still

When we say talking every day, we don't mean physically seeing each other. We just mean some sort of contact like via text, phonecalls, or social media.

Pretty much. Hi. Good morning. Good night.
 
All too often, we may rely on this standard, ho-hum question of "how was your day" when catching up with each other. While it’s easy to fall into a communication rut in the routine of everyday life, but hey, isn’t it worth trying a little bit harder to make your relationship a true priority?

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I love deep conversations—conversations about life, God and the future. The idea of having full fledged deep and intriguing convos every day is totally awesome but it is not realistic.

I believe there are days when you're not going to feel like talking much. So a simple text message to say hello or something is sufficient.

Talk Every Day To Share

I'd reckon that it is necessary, serious relationship or not to talk with someone every day. We need someone (after the Holy Spirit. Amen?) to share our vision, fears and struggles with.

Talking everyday might perhaps lead you to a point where it will begin to feel redundant because it essentially lessens interesting things to talk about in person if you're constantly in communication via text or phone calls . . . but yeah, just saying Hi a few times and asking how the day's going is enough, and it's not really hard to do, even if it might feel pointless.

This is my thought.

Now your turn. Do you think it's important to communicate everyday? 

P.s No Career-Wednesday until March. Counting down to Valentine!

P.s.s 95% of the time on the blog, you only find pictures of me, of my friend(s) taken by me and/with my friends because I don't want anybody reporting me to Google for "stealing" their pictures. So I thought this picture I took with a colleague is good enough for this post. All I'm trying to say is that Elijah, the guy in the picture above is not the boo oh. Lol.

Cheers to fruitful and purposeful relationships.
Stay inspired.
Stay in love.


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