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Don't Do Things You Will Regret Later(2): First Time I Went Clubbing

You will agree with me that hitting the big three-0 is a very big deallllll. And like I told you last week, I will be sharing lessons from being a 20-something just before my journey into 30s begins.

This is the third lesson. I hope it inspires you in some way. Happy reading!

Clubbing Experience 

First clubbing experience

Fresh out of the University.

I was determined to rock my NYSC year.

After graduation, when the majority of my friends and coursemates were entering the “real” world with “real” jobs lined up, I packed my bags (well, over-packed them) and moved to Akure, Ondo State to serve Nigeria for the year.

It wasn't an unusual thing for corps members who were posted to Akure to go clubbing on Fridays. It was a way of living the "good life".

While some people are more practical, I have always been entirely heart-driven; if I have an urge to do something, I simply make it happen. And if I don't have the urge, it would be a difficult thing.

Many corps members thought I was being too holy for not doing it, but I never once doubted my decision.

“Am I looking for a boyfriend?” Nope. “Do I know anyone there?” Nope.
Weekend after weekend, I turned down all invitations to go clubbing until someone who happened to be close to me decided to celebrate his party at the club.

So I went.

And guess what?

You don't need alcohol to have a good time. 

STAY. SOBER. I’m stressing this for your own good. STAY SOBER, or don’t drink at all. No one would really notice that you’re NOT drinking if you keep yourself occupied with the dance floor. Guys will be on to you. Guard your body, girl.

You need to stay sane when everyone else is losing it.

Hahaha! Okay, I’m trying to pass this off as a joke, but let’s just be realistic here okay? Most of the guys/men are in there to also ‘score’ anyway; but yeah sure, some are there just to party and dance. Nevertheless, you don’t need alcohol to have a good time. Trust me on this one, sweetie.

Should You Go Clubbing?

First of all, I’m talking about the kind of club where there’s a dance floor, a DJ, and a crowd looking for a night of dancing, booze, and a good time (a.k.a. nightclub).

Nightclubs exist primarily for two purposes: drinking alcohol and meeting members of the opposite sex, most often with sexual activity in mind. Yes, there are music and dancing, but primarily singles in particular go clubbing to drink and meet someone.

Nightclubs are of the world, and, while Christians are to be in the world, we are not to be of it. Being of the world means to be interested in and desiring those things that appeal to the sinful nature.

Yes, I went clubbing but I didn't lose my mind.

Me at 22.
What's My Point? 

As Christians we must stop associating false stigmas with things we do not know. Every club situation is not a sinful arena. Every club situation does not propose a chance to go against our Lord and Savior. Instead of casting judgment on things we do no know, we should get up and be like Jesus.

The make or break of the club experience is being with the right crowd. This might not always be within your control.

Seek out community. Seek out ways you can save people. Seek out ways you can be a more knowledgeable human being. Seek out these situations without losing sight of your Christian faith.

Make sure your relationship with God is intact. Live life. Loosen up and go have fun.

Most of what you think is important now will seem unimportant in 10 or 20 years and that’s OK. That’s called growth. Just try to remember to not take yourself so seriously all the time.

Thanks for being a part of my journey.

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This is the third of #20Pieces. We'll have the fourth tomorrow. 🙂

Let me know in the comment box if you have had any similar experience.

Stay inspired.
Stay positive.
Stay lovely.

Written by Nwamaka Onyekachi
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