Tuesday, 28 January 2020

Dear Diary, My Husband Left Me

Throughout your dating, engaged, and married life, you're bound to hit some bumps on the road. Hopefully, they'll make you stronger. Or, in my case, they'll make you stay awake.

Missing Him

My husband left me

Some weeks ago, I was alone. All by myself. At home. In the room. On the bed. I've never felt more lonely.

"I miss my husband!"

Sometimes loneliness creeps up on you in your marriage and before you know it, you start to feel empty, sad, bored, depressed and isolated.

Dear singles,
Marriage does not cure loneliness. 

If you’re looking for marriage to ‘fix’ anything in you, you’re looking at it through the wrong lens. Marriage won’t ‘fix’ you. It will expose you. It will just be shining a spotlight on the areas you’re able to largely ignore (or cover) as a single.

Do not think that getting married will solve an inner emptiness of the heart, you will be profoundly disappointed. No man in this world can satisfy a void of that size. No human heart can fill another's so it never wants again. It is neither fair nor healthy to place such an expectation on human relationships.

So if marriage won’t cure loneliness – what will?

When my husband travelled for the longest time ever since we got married, it was a heart-check for me. Why do I miss my husband? Yes, thank God for technology which helps us stay in touch but it doesn't seem to be enough. I still missed his presence!

Amaka hugs Kachi

In the loneliness I had a choice:
To WALLOW or To WORSHIP

I could focus on the situation, or focus on God. I could spend the night worrying about my husband's absence or spend the night basking in God's presence. Wait, I hope you don't get me wrong. It's not that my husband's physical presence stops me from enjoying God's presence every other day, but that his physical absence can inspire me to throw myself into God like I never had. His physical absence, should infact, make our love stronger and deeper.

What can be more powerful than worshipping God all through the night, for most of the week?!

You too have a choice, married or single: let your loneliness drive you to wallow, or to worship. How you choose will determine the kind of woman and future or present wife you will become.

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
 — Isaiah 41:10

". . .I will never leave you nor forsake you."
 — Deuteronomy 31: 6

On a lighter note, my husband got back with lovely gifts just for me. Among which were the sneakers I wore to church the other day.

Marriage is beautiful. I can miss being with my groom— knowing that he'll be coming back home.

Thanks for reading.
Stay inspired.
Stay positive.
Stay lovely.


Written by Nwamaka Onyekachi
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