RELATIONSHIP: What You Should Know Before You Start

There are so many interesting things I like to talk about— from love to marriage, career to media, singlehood to motherhood, and so on. But every time I am given an opportunity to speak to youths about love and relationships, I feel like a big fish swimming in her very own water. I literally come alive. Gosh!

Before You Begin a Relationship 

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Entering into a relationship is not something you do because you just feel like it. It is not a random event in your life. It actually can be a life-defining or life-altering experience for you. So it is important that you know what you are embarking on. Like the Bible says in Luke 14:28-30, where Jesus uses the analogy of a builder who must first calculate the expenses to ensure they have enough resources to complete a tower, and a king who assesses his strength before engaging in war. 

The truth is that you must understand and be prepared for the full commitment and potential sacrifices required to be in a relationship. So, the question you should ask yourself is: 

Am I ready to be in a relationship? 

Am I?

If your answer is NO, then I am happy for you. You can move on to another blog post. Maybe these ones about Rocking Your Singlehood, Falling in Love With Your Life and Loving Jesus. Hahaha!

Kachi CG Releases Debut Album, ‘Love Echoes’ with 11 Tracks

I’m the proudest wife in Nigeria right now. Hahaha! This is partly because I watched it all happen. The late nights, the prayers, the back and forth. I saw the making of this album up close, and I can boldly say Kachi CG didn’t just create music. He released a message. A message of love.

And true to its name, it’s Love Echoing from the heart of the Father to His son and through the voice of His son back to the world. 

Debut album, ‘Love Echoes’ by Kachi CG

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Kachi CG’s debut album, Love Echoes was launched on his birthday, August 3rd, 2025 and it was amazing. My heart is full! The album is not just a collection of songs, it’s Love Echoing from the heart of the Father to His son and through the voice of His son back to the world. (Okay, I have said that before but it’s worth repeating. 😉)

The album features 11 tracks. Each track carries a sound that’s deeply personal and rich. You can literally feel the love of God as you listen.

Here’s a quick walk through each track and the Heart Rays behind them:

6 Birthday Messages I’m Keeping Forever

It’s less than 24hours after my birthday and I still feel completely undone by the kindness of my people. I received texts, calls, DMs, posts, videos, voice notes and even customized fliers that made me cry, laugh, blush. . . and pause to just whisper “thank You, Jesus.”

So today, I’m bottling up some of those words like flowers here. This is for the me that might need a reminder in the future. And maybe for you too. Because words are powerful. And when they come from the heart? They stay with us foreverrrr.

Birthday Love That Melted My Heart

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Life can get noisy. The screams of the enemy may try to negate God’s whispers sometimes. On the days (like this one here) when I feel invisible or uncertain, I want to come back here and remember: I’m seen. I’m loved. I’m inspiring.

Here are Top 6 of the birthday wishes I’m holding onto:

• From Ifunanya Emenike (The MEGA Teens)

Happy birthday to the beautiful Aunty, my inspiration mummy, I'm inspired by how you can be fashionable and also prayerful. My mindset while in east was that those that dress fashionable are not serious with things of God, but now I take those words back because you've shown me that you can dress fashionable and serve God mightily, thank you for changing that mindset of mine and thank you for all your sacrifices for the mega teens, I pray that God's favour will always go with you , because his favour makes impossible possible.

Happy birthday once more and enjoy your day.

Wearing New Shoes, Many Hats… How Did I Grow Up So Fast?!

It’s my birthday!!!! What’s a birthday without a blog post?! I tried to have a quiet birthday but my people literally said, “No no, it’s already too late oh, no no!” I love it for me. Thank you, guys!!!

Wearing New Shoes & Many Hats

Freshest photo taken today: 26/06/2025

I can’t believe I am as old as I am today. It’s funny that I screamed to the world when I turned 20, 21,22, 25,26,28 and almost screamed out my lungs when I turned 30. Now, today, I’m like, “girl, you are not a child anymore”. Maybe because I am now mothering three children. Who knows? Oh my! 

Do you become quieter as you grow older??

Anyway, for some reasons best known to me, I thought it wise to not share any pictures of me today, June 26. I wasn’t going to declare my birthday until I got a Wordddd. I have been waiting on God all through the month of June. And finally, I received IT. Glory!!!!

Is Matching Outfits in Marriage Cheesy or Powerful?

I always knew we’d be that couple.

You know, the ones who match outfits, laugh at inside jokes, hold hands and show up at events like a walking love song. Literally. 😄 It has always been my dream. I knew I wanted to experience the love that’s very visible and vibrant. Soft and rugged. Deep and aligned. All that.

And guess what?

God gave me that…. and more.

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Kachi and I have been beautifully matching outfits from the day we agreed to be committed to each other and stay together forever. We match not just in clothes, but also in purpose, in passion, and in vibe. Ah, it’s the little things that make the biggest impact. I love love love it for me.

WWW—What We Wore to Church: Ankara Family Style

From solo slays to squad goals. Now see what the Lord has done!

Once upon a time, it was just me showcasing my Sunday outfits on the What I Wore blog series, finding moments after church service, and setting timers on my camera. Now? It’s the whole fam! A family of 5!

International Day of the Boy Child: Speaking Life Into Our Sons

Isn’t it funny how this is my very first post for International Day of the Boy Child? Just three months ago, I wouldn’t be bothered or have given it any thought. But today, as I am holding my son and nursing him, it suddenly means something to me.

Motherhood is truly a beautiful thing. What a life-transforming journey. 

When Boys Are Seen

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Today is International Day of the Boy Child and for the first time in my entire lifetime, it matters to me. Not just to celebrate, but to INTERCEDE.

I think about the boys I know — the ones I’ve dated, taught, coached, prayed with, worked with and watched grow.

And I wonder:

Who taught them how to feel? Who told them they are enough without proving it? Who fathered their hearts?

We celebrate girls (rightly so), we fight for women (we must), but what of the boy?

When will we begin to see him not just as a FUTURE MAN. FUTURE HUSBAND. FUTURE FATHER but as a soul in need of nurturing NOW?

Family of 5 loading... and I couldn’t be more ready!

It’s official! I’m now rounding the last two weeks (or shorter!) of my third pregnancy and everyone in my family is on “baby watch.” The final countdown has begun, and soon my tight-knit little family of four will expand.

Counting Down to a Family of 5

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I got an invite to be a guest at a forum, and I almost declined until Kachi reminded me that by then, I should have offloaded the package and be light enough to show up and dish out what I’ve got. Did you catch that?!  

Technically, we’re hoping the baby drops in two weeks or less!

Wow! 

It’s a whirlwind of emotions over here. Excitement. Anticipation. Gratitude. Anxiety. Love. Name it.

From a family of two to three, then four, and now five—it’s been an incredible journey of growth, laughter, and love.

One thing I’ve learned through this journey is that love doesn’t divide; it MULTIPLIES. With every child, our capacity to love has grown exponentially. And as we prepare to welcome this little one, I’m reminded that this is God’s perfect design—to expand our hearts and our lives in ways we never imagined possible.

Making the Most of the Last Days of Pregnancy

It’s the first week of the year, and I’m still pregnant. I honestly can’t believe Kachi and I miscalculated this thing again. Lol. We were hoping for a December baby, but the doctor wasn’t on board with inducing labor to avoid the risk of a premature delivery. And I guess God had his own plans and probably laughed at ours. Hahaha!

So here I am, still pregnant and soaking up every bit of these final moments.

Last Days of Pregnancy

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Seasons of life are as beautiful as the phrase itself. While this might be my last pregnancy, it’s also the completion of my family. I am giving my daughters their final sibling, and completing our gallery wall with no missing children. Thank You, Sweet Jesus!

So yes, my season of having pregnancy announcements, gender reveals, and late-night feedings may be coming to an end after this baby, but as my husband said, “When one season ends, another begins.” I still have a while left in this one, and what an amazing thing that is. So I am going to breathe and enjoy every second of it, even the uncomfortable parts. I’ll savor the moments of feeling a baby hiccup in my belly, and laugh at the fifth time in a row I get up and waddle-walk to the bathroom, because this season will not last forever as another one begins.

2025: Year of FIRE

This is officially my first blog post of the year, as every other published post you have read in the last few months (my third pregnancy journey series) was scheduled from the later end of last year. So, welcome to a brand new year!

I am practically basking in the euphoria of a new season, and it feels just right at this point.

Favour, Increase, Renewal and Exploits

First family picture of 2025. Cross Over Service.

Imagine me screaming “this girl is on fireeee!!!” at the top of my high-pitched voice right now. Would you block your eardrums? You better not. Haha! This post almost feels like I’m screaming the same thing at the moment.

I AM ON FIRE IN 2025.

I AM ON FIRE IN 2025.

I AM ON FIRE IN 2025.

Let me break it down for you. FIRE isn’t just a word; it’s an acronym for all that I’ve been spoken over the year by my Heavenly Father, my Spiritual Fathers, and the priest of my family. 

Here is what I’m stepping into:

When a Girl Mom is Having a Boy

Right from the beginning, I knew it was a boy. Nothing was different physically, but I could feel his wild spirit. One day I told my husband, “I feel like I became a lion to give birth to a lion” because at the time, I was deeply and widely studying various resources on what it means to be a Christian who is as bold as a lion (Proverbs 28:1). I just knew we were expecting a baby boy.

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Lately, my blog has become a constant swirl of all things pregnancy, and to my loyal sweethearts, I promise to return to more of my “old ways” once this little darling arrives. For now, I couldn’t resist taking a moment to sip in all the emotions that this season brings.

It’s my last pregnancy (amen?), and I’m determined not to miss out on any part of being pregnant. Lol! 

Jokes aside, I actually enjoy capturing my feelings with words before they fly away. It’s my thing. Remember when I shared what it feels like;

• to be single when all my friends were getting married,
• to be engaged,
• to be a newly married woman (one week old),
• to be pregnant for the first time (1st trimester, 2nd trimester and 3rd trimester),

I even also shared what it feels like to be a broke entrepreneur. Wow, is there anything else I haven’t shared with you on this Heart Rays?? You see! Please, allow me share what it feels like to be a girl mum expecting a baby boy. 

So with that being said, I’m both excited and nervous about entering a whole new world of being a boy mom!

5 Things I’m Loving About This Pregnancy Glow

It’s often said that every pregnancy is different, and from my experience, that’s absolutely true. I’m not sure I glowed as much during my previous pregnancies (though some people claimed I did), but this time, I’m glowinggggggg—I can see it and feel it! Hallelujah!!!

A Different Pregnancy Glow

Pregnancy glow is the vibrant, radiant, fresh look that many women show on their faces while pregnant. For me, this pregnancy is the most beautiful thing. I feel like I’m not just growing a baby—I’m also glowing in every possible way. It’s been such a joy to experience this unique blend of physical changes, emotional highs, and spiritual blessings that make me feel radiant. So today, I’m unapologetically showing off and sharing five things I’m absolutely loving about this pregnancy glow!

1. My Skin is Doing the Most

There’s something about the way pregnancy hormones work their magic! My skin feels smoother, softer, and yes, brighter. It’s like the angels decided to sprinkle a little extra oil on me. I catch myself in the mirror sometimes and think, “Who is this glowing beauty?!” Whether it’s the natural flush or just the glow that comes with carrying life, I’m soaking in every compliment like the queen I am!

Pregnant at Christmas: Mary’s Story and My Own

It was the Sunday before Christmas and the atmosphere was all lovely, warm and lively. Being pregnant I couldn’t help relating to Mary, the mother of Jesus. She was also pregnant at this time of the year, but her journey was far more extraordinary.

Picture a Pregnant Mary 

As I sat in church, surrounded by the warmth of Christmas songs and the joy of the season, I couldn’t help but think of Mary. I felt a deep connection to Mary. She carried not just a baby but the Saviour of the world, navigating a journey filled with uncertainty and yet rooted in unwavering faith.

I also felt grateful. Grateful for this new life growing inside me. Grateful for Mary’s example of faith and surrender. And most of all, grateful for Jesus, whose birth changed everything.

And I pictured Mary.

I wondered how Mary would feel at the moment, seeing all the mothers walking in her footsteps. She said yes to God’s incredible plan, even when she didn’t have all the answers. Her journey reminds me that motherhood—whether we’re birthing children, ideas, or dreams—is always a partnership with God.

Making Decisions That Go Beyond Black and White

When you're in your “typical” childbearing years, you always get the question, “are you having another one?”. It's all SO personal and there are SO many factors that go into that decision. Physically, can you do another? Mentally, can you do it? What about financially? What does your partner think? What do you guys WANT? I know how incredibly difficult it is to decide… At a point I even asked Google “should I have a 3rd baby”. LOL. 🙈

As I welcome my third baby, I am reminded of the complexities of making decisions…

Beyond Black and White Choices

Some decisions in life seem as straightforward as choosing between black and white—right or wrong, yes or no. But often, the most meaningful choices are found at the point where faith and wisdom intersect.

Take Kachi and me, for example. When we were newly engaged we discussed and agreed on the number of children we would have. It seemed clear-cut and straightforward—a black-and-white decision we were confident about. But somewhere along the journey, we entered the grey: the space where circumstances, emotions, and faith tested our initial decisions.

After our first pregnancy, we revisited our plan. During my second pregnancy, we agreed that if we had a baby boy, we’d stick to two. That would complete our family, and we’d close the chapter.

But, as always, God’s plan is always perfect.

A Bold Approach to Pregnancy Style

Pregnancy has a way of teaching you resilience. It’s a beautiful reminder that God’s strength is made perfect in our weakness.

This season isn’t without its challenges. There are moments of exhaustion, discomfort, and uncertainty. But through it all, I’ve leaned more into God. God has been my constant, my anchor, and my guide. In His presence, I’ve found strength to carry on, even when the days feel long.

I honestly didn’t feel like going to church today, but I went anyway! The spirit was willing, even though the flesh was weak. Kachi prayed for me, and just like that—boom! I jumped out of bed. Hallelujah!

I whispered, “There must be something packaged for me amongst the brethren today. Lord, I receive all that you have for me today in the name of Jesus!”

These pictures being captured were part of the packages. . .

PREGNANCY STYLE: Tips for Styling Your Baby Bump in Brown

After church that Sunday, I decided to take a few photos. Nothing fancy—just us, in our Sunday best, with my growing baby bump taking center stage.

Styling Pregnancy in Shades of Brown

As someone who is pretty practical when it comes to investing in my wardrobe (and who is almost positive this is my last time doing this?), I really made an effort to maximize the number of bump-accommodating pieces I already owned to the fullest…while also still maintaining some sense of…togetherness — and personal style.

I’d been more than intentional about how I wanted to tend to and celebrate my last pregnancy. It was almost addictive. The pictures weren’t always enough. Lol. 

There is a glow that only pregnancy can give. Brown is one of the colours that effortlessly complements that glow. It’s a neutral that feels rich and sophisticated, yet it’s soft enough to evoke a sense of comfort. Plus, it pairs beautifully with earthy tones, or even pops of colour.

To elevate my look, I wore an Ankara scarf. You know I live for that fabric. 😉

Letter to My Baby Boy Long Before He was Born

“Things in the past. Things yet unseen. Wishes and dreams. All of my hopes. And all of my plans. My heart and my hands are lifted to You.”

Letter to My Son

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Son,

Sometimes, I wonder what it will be like to hold you and just stare at you for hours. I even wonder if l’d still look pretty carrying you in my womb before then. I know I'll be different when you come along. I am too excited about you.

Yesterday, I was daydreaming and wondering what you will look like. Maybe you'll be chubby. Maybe you'll have full hair. Maybe you'll be dark and tall. Maybe you'll like to sing. Maybe you'll like to write. Either way—you are going to be a very smart guy.l just know it.

It is my desire to raise sons, whose sisters, wives and children would be proud of. It is my desire to be called blessed for your sake.

You are a blessing. Not just to me, but also to your dad, the family, the church and to the world.

Family Beach Maternity Photoshoot Ideas + Pose Inspiration

It is so wild that when this post goes “live”, you would have known my little secret!

There is something about a beach photoshoot that makes my heart so happy. I absolutely love it so much, I’m going to share some beach maternity photoshoot ideas with you.

Family Beach Maternity Shoot Ideas

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This past pregnancy I decided to do a family beach maternity shoot. I wanted our joy to come out without it being forced, where the girls would be so happy and peaceful that our maternity shoot would be full of joy. It was also, my last pregnancy so it was even more special than ever before. I have truly never embraced a pregnancy more than I have with my pregnancy with baby boy.

Embrace the season.

PerfectMachForever Announces BABY BOY with ‘DREAM COME TRUE’ Music Video

We prayed for a boy. We waited. And now, we sing.

“Dream Come True” is a song of prophecy and gratitude for the gift of life and answered prayers. We hope it blesses your heart as much as it did ours. 

Produced and Directed by AMAKAMEDIA PRODUCTIONS.

Watch the full video HERE.

Stay tuned for more updates on my pregnancy journey with baby #3. 

I feel all the love. Thank you!

Blowing kisses!

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Top Tips for Achieving Your New Year Goals in 2025

Happy New Year! We made it! Yay! What are your goals for the year? Whatever they are, be sure to find these tips very helpful. 

30 Tips For Winning Goals in 2025

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Make friends with successful people and occasionally buy them gift and surprise them with lunch because successful people always give and hardly get, so when you give them, they value the gift a lot.

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Get a mentor and follow his instructions and respect the relationship. Never beg your mentor for money or disrespect his or her privacy.

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Make new positive friends as often as possible and ensure you keep the communication line open. Create a network of friends and not just connections.